Snakes in the dating pool: Spotting 10 red flags early on in a relationship

Dating can feel exciting, confusing, and hopeful all at once. But beneath the butterflies, it’s important to also look out for subtle warning signs—behaviours that quietly hint at emotional unavailability, control, or disrespect. These aren’t tiny “oops” moments; they’re patterns that repeat over time.

This article isn’t about making every imperfect person a villain. It’s about learning to notice when someone’s behaviour consistently drains you, confuses you, or makes you feel smaller instead of safer. Below are 10 early red flags—snakes in the dating pool—that are worth paying attention to as you figure out who deserves to stay, and who is better left behind.